Men & Women, Matter & Space

Not a serious post, was just thinking out loud.

When I was young, I used to wonder why family is made of a couple of opposite genders. I used to wonder why boys fells in love with girls and vice-versa. I must have been 12 or 13 when it occurred to me that the phenomenon wasn’t strange. Two males can be the best of friends but can’t devote their lives to each other. It is only about time one would seek a female to start a family with. Thus, two males can’t be destined to be together. They can’t be devoted to each other forever. The same is true for two females.

I grew up to understand that sexuality is manifested when opposite genders come together, almost as if they were complementary. There was a time when male and female were one. They reproduced only asexually. When sexual reproduction started, that one spitted into male and female. This allowed greater biodiversity because now plants could cross-pollinate.

Essentially, male and female are half of what they once must have been. Perhaps, they are not full beings but half beings. Perhaps, sexuality is not about sex but creation. It is profound to think that there was a time when male and female were one. And it is still true about countless forms of life living among us.

I invariably compare the male-female relationship with the matter-space relationship. Matter tells space how to curve. It gives order to space. Space tells matter how to move. It envelopes matter and guides its trajectory. Matter has a tendency to come together and coalesce. Space has a tendency to expand. Entropy increases with time. Together they complete the cosmos. There are things that men are more receptive to. There are things that women are more receptive to. Two men can’t see what a man and a woman can see. A man is more bit more disposed to see trees, insects, and animals before he recognizes the forest. A woman is more like to be holistically disposed. She sees the forest first before she notices the trees, the insects, and other animals. This difference of perspective is fascinating to me as if men and women were meant to be together as if they complete each other. Some parts of the unknown are manifested to women, while the others are manifested to men but the puzzle remains incomplete until they work on it together.

Jesus said, "If two make peace with each other in this one house, they will say to the mountain, 'Move Away,' and it will move away." 48, Gospel of Thomas.