Those Who Want To Be Left Alone?

I thank Mary Madeline for proofreading my draft.


"Mind your own business." "Why doesn't anyone care about me? Why am I invisible?"

"Don't say this/ that to me." "No one talks to me. I guess, no one likes me."

"Leave me alone." " Why am I always left alone?"

"Don't be so nosy." "Why is everyone so indifferent, so insensitive?"

"Don't tell me what to do." "Only if someone had told me about it, damn!"

Why am I not cared for on the planet full of people? Why am I alone in this overpopulated world? Are you sure you have not asked for it?


When someone tells a girl not to go out in that dress, she gets offended because to say so is politically incorrect. When someone notices something is wrong in the neighbor's house, he hesitates to investigate because he is more concerned about committing a felony than about saving his neighbor's life and property. If you really press to find out how your friend is when you ask "how are you", you are intrusive and rude. People have become so concerned about the law and the culture that they suppress their impulse to care for others. In doing so, they have become lawfully lawless.


The behaviors I mentioned above manifest a very basic human inclination to care for others. That is what they are doing when they offer free advice. That is what they are doing when they ask you not to do something, not to go somewhere or not to wear something. Before a legal culture became mainstream, people talked to their neighbor's children, invited them over dinner, cared for them when their parents were at work. They interacted freely with people. They acted out their inclinations. Because they openly cared for people, people felt cared for. Now, people have begun to self-regulate to the point that they end up ignoring others and making them feel invisible. Moreover, others have ignored all caring behaviors as rude and intrusive. In fact, so many Americans think it is ideal for people to leave them alone. That is behavior modification on a macro level. As a result, people have unlearned empathy and learned apathy, even though they were born the exact opposite.


If the culture continues to ignore all who actually care, all who wait to hear what you say when asked, "how are you", all who intrude in your life to check on you, and reward all who are apathetic, we are bound to end up with an apathetic population, where no one would have the impulse to check on one's neighbor. No one would have the impulse to go see one's teachers and relatives. Everyone would remain apathetic and brain dead.


Therefore, people should never be proud of the laws and the culture of their nation. It is true that people have the right to be left alone, but this is not what they should do. It is true people have the right to tell others to mind their own business. They should not do it though. These laws are man-made. The entire culture is man-made. Both are constructs that exist only to make society function. When people become arrogant of their man-made laws, they forget the eternal law/truth. The eternal law or the Dharm or the Dao, is real. When the eternal law is compromised, inappropriate things start to happen and justice dies. Love and friendship die. That of which I am writing about does not change with time. It remains the same in every nation, in every culture. It is not made. It is.

©2020 by Philosophically Inclined