Linkedin posts from 2017, part one -
In a money-driven business, employees have no reason to work other than the paycheck. Since they don't produce much value, they do not feel valuable. When people feel they are useless, they become zombies. They have no answer to "why am I doing this?"
In a value-driven business, employees understand that their work either alleviates the community or contributes to its continuity. They know that their absence would impair the community. They become a part of the community: a leaf of a tree named society. A leaf that isn't attached to the tree does not contribute to it (via photosynthesis) and dies.
Money-driven businesses create money. Value-driven businesses create wealth.
Everyone I meet knows things I don't. He can serve someone who lacks that what he knows. However, those two people often do not know each other. A wealthy nation or state must be close-knit, where everyone knows everyone else. Since they know who needs what, they can engage in mutually beneficial exchanges.
Economics, being rational, accounts for the tangible, the measurable. Hence, wealth is reduced to money, which is reduced to $ amounts. Then, governments wage war against income inequality and at the same time promise economic independence, which artificially creates ego among citizens. Now, the poor wouldn't ask the rich's help because welfare keeps them artificially independent. The rich wouldn't know that the poor can provide value in some manner, because they would never talk. In a nation that truly masters such independence, everyone would be piss-poor (talking about wealth now).
People may have to reject this notion of independence and think of themselves as contributing members of an intradependent community. A nation's wealth, thus, is reflected in the relationships among her citizens rather than GDP or any other economic measure. Wealth isn't an economic concept but a socio-economic one.
When you buy a car, do you ask "how the car is" or "how many miles are on it"? Most ask the latter because it is a better predictor of how the car is.
I have been interrupting my American friends to encourage them to change how they interact with people. The initial few seconds of any interactions can almost predict the rest of your relationship. When you ask meaningless questions such as how they are, you just lose those early moments. Now, an average person on an average day should be average, neither good nor bad, but the conversation opener allows only two extreme options. And guess what happens when you say things you don't mean all the time. You get frustrated.
"What have they been doing" is a much better predictor of how they are. It also lets the person open up about his/her life events. This way, you can keep up with their lives, and they too feel known, which is why it is a PROPER CONVERSATION OPENER. In fact, people should be smart enough to know "how someone is" just by looking at his or her body language. Don't bother them with "how they are doing" when you can see them stressed or sad.
Toastmaster Speech 10 - Produce value.
1. When an individual contributes to his community for money or for free, he becomes a part of the community. He feels a sense of belonging. His self-worth improves because he is producing something worthwhile (as determined by the market). This was the natural way of life before schools were invented.
2. Society does not owe you anything, but we do society something. That I can own land, that I can call the police if someone forcibly takes it are possible only because we live in a civilized society. In fact, every little thing we have from salt on our tables to shoes we wear has become possible because several people engaged in relationships to produce value. We owe the comfort of our lives to our people
3. Producing value does not mean giving up your will. In fact, choice, freedom, and will are possible only because people produce value and depend on one another. You can go skating only because the owner could own land, employ people, and buy and protect his equipment. Therefore, the indirect tie between value creation and exercise of will is inevitable.
How? Be selfish. Do only what you want to do. Now, be selfless. Contribute to the world doing what you like by working for someone else or for yourself.
A big house in the country may be comfortable but may alienate you from the community.
Lack of nutrition may deteriorate your health, but an abundance of it can too.
Having no money can financially imprison you, but having too much of it can make you paranoid.
Being ugly may depress you, being too attractive may make you cocky.
No love can challenge you, but too much of it can spoil you.
No help can slow down your growth, but too much can impair your growth altogether.
All I mean to say is to be careful what you wish for. Your wishes and expectations may not make you better off when met. Or maybe, you have everything. You are just looking around too much.
Self-esteem means respect and value for oneself. Now, the word "respect" has intentionality to it. You respect Someone Because of Something.
[However, the term has been diluted. When people say they respect others' opinions, and religions, they actually mean they are fine (ok) with the difference. Being ok doesn't equal respecting someone. The correct word is "accept".]
You can't respect and value yourself just for being you, antithetical to what college campuses indoctrinate. You have to do something respectable, such as telling the truth and working hard. To value yourself, you have to do something valuable. This may be why people look for meaningful jobs. How are you adding value to the world?
If the above holds, doing respectable things and creating value may be inextricably related to self-esteem. Both require conscious work, not reassurance.
Since kids are indoctrinated not to judge, not to make assumptions, not to perceive what they perceive naturally, the ability to communicate and empathize gets severely compromised.
A message isn't what is said as much as how it is said. People need to understand that language is a tool to record data, form contracts, and solve practical problems. Language isn't communication itself. Communication is natural to humans and even animals. I am surprised to see people communicate with dogs, cats, and horses but fail to communicate with humans, because they wait for others to say something and are afraid that the extreme left might police them if they assume the message. The same people assume their dogs' message even though dog non-verbal language must be harder than human non-verbal.
Therefore, talk less, feel more. Attend more. Trim away superficial words. Empathy is largely communication, not words. Abandon the impolite politeness. It's making people autistic.
How do you communicate with babies? Utilize that empathy more.
Today, I had to pay rent but my bank account lacks balance. Thankfully, Garrett Pitts handed me a check of the amount, while I promised to either top-up his credit card with mine or pay him in crypto. Previously, I helped my friend Tyler pay his rent while he waited for his federal aid. Similarly, when Nikhil Lokhande and I fixed a computer at Ms. Smith Education services, we received money even though it was 100% volunteer service.
This is the most basic form of commerce or business: sharing and exchanging resources that make a community stronger than the sum of its individuals. This is why I define business as problem solving and community building, not philanthropy, not CSR.
When governments jump in to regulate markets, they only mess up the system. They unfairly compete with the private market. Parties involved do not build relationships. For example, if welfare receivers receive money directly from the rich (as a favor, not as an entitlement), they would appreciate the rich, while the rich would empathize with the poor. These humane interactions build relationships. This, my friend, is community building.
Summary: Toastmasters Speech 9
Tittle - Say only as much as necessary
1. Words carry much less meaning than non-verbal channels.
Dr. Stephan Lucas (Intro to Pub. Speak) states that eyes do most of the talking. Different lines of research have shown non-verbal channels contributing 70-90%. One can safely assume that more than half of a message is communicated non-verbally.
2. When overused, words lose their meanings. In America, thank you, sorry, please, respect, and acknowledgment don't mean anything because of overuse.
3. With unnecessary words, you grossly disrespect people-on-the-other-side's time. This primarily happens in written communication. For instance, some employers, in their rejections letters, go on length to talk about how many people applied, where they are from, what political affiliations they have, what size shoes they wear, etc. Well, I just want to know whether I got the job or not. Don't waste my time, especially when the message is copy-pasted.
Objection - We want to nice and polite to people.
Refutation - Words don't carry much meaning. Throwing out meaningless words won't make you nice and polite. Find better ways to be nice and polite.
A cheap appeal to political correctness is nothing but sophistry.
For anyone who wants to work out tomorrow, do anything more than 0.
If you can't run 5 miles, run 1 mile. If you can't run 1, run half. Anything is better than 0.
However, here come's the secret-
Once you have done 5 pushups, doing 5 more is really not as difficult as doing 10 at once.
Try it out. Action creates attitude not the otherwise. Beware of inaction.